One of the greatest highlights of 2012 for me, was being mentored by one of the most skilled, transformational, and highly paid Supercoaches on the planet. A great way to introduce Michael Neill to you, is to share the coaching tip he sent today, called “Creating a Happy New Year.”
He begins his tip with a question and a simple exercise.
What were the absolute highlight of 2012 for you?
Take a moment to jot down 3 – 5 of your best memories from the past year before reading on…
I’ll share some of mine.
- Teaching my first poetry workshop to a bright circle of women.
- Watching my daughter play Susan Waverly in the musical, “White Christmas.”
- Making a new, gold-circle friend of whom I will adore and cherish for life.
- Being mentored by Michael Neill, a pipe dream of mine for many years.
- Making an international circle of brilliant friends in the process.
- Giving a speech on interfaith relations to a large audience with glowing results.
- Sensing that my compassion has noticeably deepened for others.
- Arising early in the morning every day, despite being a “night-owl.”
Now, here’s the next question:
How many of the things on your list were the result of careful planning and hard work, and how many of them either came up unexpectedly or by “happy accident”?
The only above highlight for which I set an intention, was the increase in compassion for others. Everything else was splendid serendipity.
When I’ve asked these questions of my private clients and on public seminars, the ratio is generally 2 to 1 in favor of serendipity and synchronicity. Which raises an interesting third question:
How do we design our best year yet when 2 out of every 3 things we’re going to love about it can’t be planned for?
And these questions my friends, speak to my several year pondering on our American obsession with goal setting, and various philosophies and strategies regarding “success.” In other words, I’m skeptical, having employed many of these “empowerment” ideas with sometimes exciting, but short-lived fruits.
And so I ask the question again: What if the very best moments of 2013 will not be planned for or strategized at all? What if the whole goal-setting, success approach to life is not as we’ve always assumed?
Next time, I will share a few ideas and possibilities from the Creating a Happy New Year coaching tip. If you’d like to read more now, feel free to sign-up here for Michael Neill’s Weekly Coaching Tips, and enjoy his refreshing, wise, commonsense approach to life.
Until then, a celebration of this fresh new year before us all!